Picking Up Women

Obviously the subject of picking up women is a very vast subject and requires a entire book so click here for the book on Picking Up Women but in the mean time I want to make 2 or 3 very small but extremely important points for your success on picking up women.

I read this, actually a friend read this out loud to a group of us out of a pick up book back when we were teenagers. And being young and stupid we didn’t fully get what it was saying and thought it was obvious and stupid and I hope you don’t make the same mistake.

What the book said was… opt in on the right and I will tell you what it said.

Just kidding. What the book said is, “in order to get laid you have to WANT to get laid.” Sounds obvious right? Not at all. Let’s take a closer look. If a girl approached you right now a gorgeous beautiful woman who you had never met before and never even seen before approached you right now out of the clear blue sky and said hey you look like a big handsome stud come with me I want to share something with you. What would you do. If she’s gorgeous and beautiful you would think it’s some kind of a trick or a set up or she must be a prostitute, or she must be disease ridden or if I accept she will laugh in my face and so will everyone else or she’s way out of my league or I’m not good enough for her or some awful thing and you would pass on the offer. Admit it you would. If you are like most men you will. And later on well after she’s long gone you will kick yourself for passing up such an opportunity and you will kick yourself for a very long time to come. And you may even bitch about it to your friends until they are tired of hearing about it.

Now look at that same statement again, “in order to get laid you have to WANT to get laid.” Now all of a sudden it doesn’t look so obvious, it doesn’t look so stupid does it?

Every guy under the sun moon and stars has passed up hundreds of blatantly obvious opportunities INCLUDING YOURSELF! Isn’t that right? Right now you can think of dozens and dozens of opportunities that were thrown at you and you passed them up. That negative self chatter comes in on you (like the above scenario) and messes you up and the more beautiful the girl is the more negative self chatter there is.

How do you overcome the negative self chatter that’s stopping you and every other guy on planet earth. It’s not easy (there’s a method on the home page that helps) but the answer is mainly in that “obvious” and “stupid” statement, “to get laid you have to WANT to get laid.”

So how do you do that. Well make your mind that you WANT it. Visualize a hundred ways that you can be presented with opportunities and imagine the negative self chatter coming in and imagine yourself ignoring it and going with the opportunity with out blowing it. Plus when you really do want it the good news it the opportunity will present itself.

Please allow me to share with you an experience I had with this. I was in Los Vegas at a 4 day seminar at the MGM Grand. I looked out over the huge room where they had all the slot machines. I told myself I was going to walk through that room and before I got to the other side I would have a girl. AND I MEANT IT FOR REAL. I had no plan I didn’t know how I was going to do it I just KNEW I would somehow do it.

I started walking through when some blond playing a slot machine turned, looked at me and smiled at me. That was it. I didn’t allow any self chatter to effect me I did NOT keep walking I did not worry about the fact that I had absolutely nothing to say to this young blond (which of course is just more negative self chatter).  I STOPPED. I stopped right there dead in my tracks and STOOD there SAYING NOTHING AT ALL. Well when she saw me stop she started talking and kept talking SO I WOULD NOT LEAVE. Within a few minutes she quit playing her slot machine so we could go to the lounge and have a coffee (yes this was in the daytime. Some people think you have to pick them up at night, just more negative self chatter isn’t it?)

Things were progressing very well until her daughter showed up and had a problem with her mother picking up on a man so our plans for a get together were thwarted but phone numbers were exchanged and after the seminar she came over to my place for the weekend and made up for lost time.

This story says a couple of things. If you want it, if you REALLY want it: you aren’t going to pass up the opportunities that are thrown at you. And it might be said that when you REALLY want it opportunities are presented to you. Oh and everybody thinks you have to have a line or you have to know what to say when you approach a woman or that silences are awkward or you don’t know what to say when you meet them (all negative self chatter. Knock it off) you don’t have to say a word and you will still do fine (there’s a couple of articles on this here if you look around).

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